March 9, 2015
How to deal with being turned down for a job
Weirdly enough rejection is one of the most common psychological injuries we face on a day to day basis, if we deal with rejection so often then why is it so hard to deal with being turned down for a job?
It's normal to feel disheartened, upset, confused and a whole load of other feelings but it's important to review the situation - perhaps there was a strong internal candidate, or someone who had more relevant experience to bring to the role than you. This doesn't take away the fact that you're also very good at your job, it just means there will be another job that is better suited for you and your career development.
Try and "dust yourself off" and turn around that feeling of dejection, speak to your friends or family - have a moan (or cry), let off steam and share the load. It's natural to feel like this because you've just spent the past few weeks building yourself up, hoping "this is the one" and then the disappointment kicks in when you hear you weren't successful.
Don't blame yourself! A lot of people will take rejection personally, but it's not a personal vendetta against you, if you've done your best that all you can do.
You may start feeling uninterested and demotivated in your current role, do your best to not let this show as you want to ensure that your colleagues see you as a professional and mature individual. It's always important to remember that when you do secure a role and go to hand your notice in with your current employer, you don't want to be remembered as that person who was miserable!
If you continue to have that "down in the dumps" feeling about you, it will most likely impact future interviews. Try and be optimistic and positive, use the process as a learning experience. Where possible, try and get feedback from the employer or agency around why you were unsuccessful. Tangible feedback is important for you to be able to know what you can make better for the next time around. If the feedback is around "fit" and sounds a bit vague then it's probably safe to say that particular organisation wasn't the one for you.
The only thing you can do is "your best", if you have prepared and given a stellar performance, keep going because soon enough you will be offered the perfect job. Even though it might feel like it, it's not the end of the world if you don't get the job. There will always be lots of job opportunities out there, perseverance is key! If a role is "meant for you" you will get it. It's what you do after that matters, so try and make the experience positive so that you can grow and develop as an individual (and hopefully ace the next one!).